Chapter 1 — Five in the Morning
At five o’clock on Thanksgiving morning the house was cold enough that I could see my own breath over the coffee, and I stood at the kitchen counter in my husband’s Army T-shirt and let the cold have me, because the cold was at least honest.
Frost had silvered the insides of the windows overnight.
My parents kept the thermostat low to save money they did not need to save, and I had learned in the months I’d been staying there not to touch it, the way I had learned not to touch a great many things.
I was five months along.
The baby had started moving in the last few weeks, small turns and pressures low under my ribs, and I had gotten into the habit of resting one hand there without deciding to, the way you rest a hand on something you are guarding.
The T-shirt was Niko’s, faded to the gray of dishwater, the unit crest on the chest cracked and peeling from a hundred washes.
It was the only thing in that bedroom that still carried any of him — not cologne, he never wore any, just the particular warmth of a shirt that had been his, which I knew was in my head and did not care.
I wore it to sleep.
I had worn it to the funeral, under the black dress, where no one could see, because I was not going to bury him without a piece of him against my skin.
That was where I’d been, twelve hours earlier.
Standing over a folded flag.
And now it was Thanksgiving, and I was standing in a cold kitchen, and my phone was buzzing against the counter, and I already knew, the way you know weather, that whatever was coming was not going to be kind.
Grief is not what people think it is.
People think it is a storm, loud and visible, something you can see coming and see pass.
Mine was quieter and worse than that.
Mine was a change in the density of the world, so that every ordinary object had gotten heavier — the coffee cup, the chair, the milk in the door of the refrigerator — and moving through a day meant hauling all of it, all the time, while pretending my arms were empty.
Four months I’d been doing that.
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